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It’s Electric, Boogie Woogie…and Abiding in Christ


So yesterday I couldn’t blog, and today when I tried, the internet wasn’t working (is this Africa or what, people?), and tonight here I am with Jack’s computer on and I am 48 minutes late for bedtime. Needless to say, I’ll be writing quick. It’s not that I’m bursting with such inspiration about winter, I will tell you that much. It is so freezing cold outside and staticky inside; my skin is dry and I haven’t lost the goosebumps long enough to have a chance to shave my legs in…well, TMI.

About winter, I can say this: It is so uncomfortable that it makes the smallest things, for me anyway, so blissful. It’s like a big glass of ice water on a 100 degree day in July…just blissful. Well, today I accidentally left my electric blanket on while we were at church and then when I came home, I crawled into bed and…rapture!!! It’s the little things, you know?
There really are many things I would like to blog about right now. From big to small, mainly small. I’m feeling a little distant and distracted from my own heart, and it does help me to write about it. It’s weird–and I’m saying this so honestly because I think it may be poignant to you as well, maybe–that distance and distraction from myself, from the Lord, from stillness, is a warning. It’s an important warning…It’s like before I even get myself involved in something that is going to take some of my attention, thoughts, focus, etc, I begin to feel this warning. It’s an alarm that says, “If just thinking about this is taking you away from what the Lord told you to be thinking about, then the thing itself is definitely off limits for now.”
I realize I’m being vague, but I just am having these thoughts roll around in my mind. It’s hard to stay still. I do get ideas of things I want to do. They aren’t super important like they would have been to me in the past, but they are cool ideas that I would enjoy and maybe are the Lord’s will. And just as a disclaimer, I need to say that they could be, in a different season, exactly what God wants me thinking about and working out the details of. But as this year began, my heart was set on one thing, just rolling over from 2010, I want to learn how to truly dwell with the Lord. I know that doesn’t mean sitting literally with my Bible open all day, because He has given me things to take care of; I am learning how dwelling with Him has a lot to do with my heart, soul, mind, and strength…what I care most about deep down, my motives, my desires, what I want in the end, what I put my time, energy, and thoughts into all day, what makes me feel complete or successful. Literally, what am I thinking about all day? What am I trying to figure out or fix or work out? The answer tells me what I love, maybe even what I worship. I want Jesus in this place.
Well, anyway, I just feel a warning and I want to heed it. With the free time of my mind, with the free time of my day (so precious little there is), am I free to do what I want? With my will turned toward Him, regardless of how I feel and the lazy choices I may make, I’m really not free to do what I want IF I want Him in the way I say I want Him. I say about God, “Oh, He doesn’t want anything from me. Such relief, such freedom to just be and not have to perform and measure up!” And that is 100% true. Yet it is equally true, oh so unbelievably true, that He wants everything from me!! Not anything…yet everything.
We talked about this at church tonight; it’s so hard to put into words, this issue of abiding. John 15 describes it best, of course. But something that struck me as we were talking is that if I had to describe abiding in Christ, like my personal experience with this, I would talk about what had to go and get out of the way first, what space had to be made for Him. He will not abide with sin, we all know that; He will kindly work out those thorns, He will bring light to the darkness and overcome it. But maybe less realized, at least for me it was, is that He will not share space with all our self-focused obsessions, goals, demands of Him, self-consciousness, judgments, materialism, unforgiveness, even dreams sometimes if they are not surrendered (whatever it is we find ourselves longing for and daydreaming about); He won’t share mental and emotional space with other lovers, so it begs us to begin clearing out what our mind and heart are set on all of our waking hours. Is there room for Him to abide? Is there room for scripture, or His beauty and characteristics, or Him talking with you or is it very packed with to-do lists, goals you’ve set for yourself that keep you going, etc? I don’t know. It’s different for everybody, but one thing I am pretty sure most American Christians have in common is that they aren’t careful in the planning of their days, meaning they don’t plan their time and energy around making space for the Lord to commune with them. Sickness and kids and a few other things led me to a quieter, smaller life, and when I spend time with women I thought they would think my life was kind of less, kind of pitiful, kind of lazy or defeated even because I’m not “doing” anything besides taking care of me, my family, and knowing Jesus. But instead, I sense that they kind of wish they could leave it all behind like I did. They can.
Maybe this new year could start off with the journey of housecleaning…If you’re like me, you’re like, “Okay, let’s do that right now. I want to do it once and walk on.” But it doesn’t work that way. It is a constant thing of going, “What was I just thinking about and why?” or “What did I just get upset about and why?” Then, inwardly turning back to the Lord in communion with Him. This is not a witch hunt, we’re not going inside looking for stuff to be condemned about! This is taking the words “I desire to abide in the Lord with my heart and mind more” and making it a practice and a discipline. We’re going deeper and growing more mature through this, and in the meantime, realizing how we are absolutely just at the beginning! Yes, friends, this is elementary, and yet it is the sum total. It’s not a means to an end, it is the end. This is a huge challenge…so much to grasp of the Lord!! He is so good, and He rewards those who diligently seek Him, just to know Him and nothing more.
He also rewards those who don’t go to bed this late. Yikes! Goodnight! Thanks for reading.
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Everybody Has Those Days…

…I just have more of them. I have been so tired this week! Along with that comes such a lack of mojo. Gee whiz. I can hardly stand myself. Although the winter is part of it, I certainly can’t force full responsibility on it. It’s actually been gorgeous outside. If it’s going to be cold, at least it’s beautiful! In the midst of my lack, I thank God for the unmerited favor and unconditional love He has for me. I receive it. I take it. I’m hungry and thirsty for it, and can’t live without it. Grace. I wrote a song a long time ago that says, “I am just a beggar really, arms outstretched…for one more handout, one more chance, one more anything.”

Last night Jack and I listened to Misty Edwards preach on ihop.org, and she was talking about how our minds are so full, so active, always thinking about what someone said or what we said, or the future…it’s like a movie going on and on. And she said God made us like that on purpose and that very space was fashioned for Him to dwell with us. We are used to filling it with a million other things, and sometimes that’s appropriate obviously to think through other things, but how many hours could our minds be focused on the Lord each day when it’s just going to be running anyway? Misty said she hopes someday her daydreams are about Jesus. Me, too! That’s my new hope, anyway. 🙂
Last night, after listening to this, I was trying to spend time with my mind focused on Jesus, and found myself praying for everybody and everything instead, then eventually distracted completely and thinking about myself. So, I’ve compiled a list to help myself train my mind in this. Here are some sort of tangible things I can set my mind on:
*Scriptures: Right now, I have a goal to read Song of Solomon, Proverbs, John, and Revelation 12 times this year. I can meditate on a small line of scripture, taking one word at a time. Or I can take a line and picture it; whatever I think the outcome could be, just visualize the story, image, etc. and dwell on the beauty.
*Worship: Make lists of the attributes and characteristics of God in my mind. Make up short meditative songs, like little mantras. It’s amazing how truth becomes alive when you do this! It can be the smallest thing, like “Jesus loves me”. Sing to Him, especially songs that are straight to Him and magnify Him!
*Promises/Words: Think about times God has spoken to me, helped me, healed me, given me a word of encouragement, or sent something to me at just the right time. We call these things to mind, as the Bible says, therefore we have hope. How neat to have a smile on your face because you’re secretly adoring Jesus.
He wants our mind, and that requires discipline. As I’m reading in Proverbs, discipline is a fruit of wisdom, and that means it is a reward! It is a gooooooood thing. It is a gift. One prayer I really need to get back to praying (137 x a day if need be) is, “Lord, help me love wisdom. Help me desire what is right, good, and wise, because on my own, I am the opposite. I am lazy and rebellious. Only You can change me!” Setting our minds on things above…wherever, whenever, it’s Heaven practice.
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Butt-Grab Chili

(Yemi made this at library class.)

Hee hee. Yes, “Butt-Grab Chili” is exactly what I meant to write! I want to give you an awesome recipe for chili, and a funny story to go with. Today, we had this delicious meal along with some cheese, crackers, and broccoli. Wish I had a picture. I do have a picture actually; however, something most usually goes wrong between me and technology that disables me from appearing as cool and blogalicious as I would like to be. 🙂

Here’s the recipe:
1 lb. of Laura’s lean ground beef, browned
1 minced onion, browned with the beef
1 can kidney beans
1 can chili beans
1 29 oz can tomato sauce
1 tbsp worchestire sauce
1 chili mix packet
Cook on low for about 40 minutes. YUM. The kids love it, beans and all.
And the story: We were having dinner with one of our favorite families in the world, the Henwoods, and Jeff and Mary told us the history of the chili they served us that night. They had been assigned to bring the chili to some church gathering, and Jeff thought he was the only supplier so he had brought a ton of it. Turns out it was a chili cook-off…But anyway, that’s not the funny part. Everyone was talking about how great his chili was, and this woman came up behind him and grabbed his butt! He whips around, somewhat expecting it to be Mary, but alas it was a mortified woman who had the wrong husband in mind…or hand, I should say. Jeff shaves his head, so we do have to be careful, those of us with bald hubbies. 🙂 Anyway, thus and therefore, the chili is forevermore called “butt-grab chili”. Enjoy this winter sensation!!
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Hmm…

So, today I was thinking, “What the heck can I say about winter today? It is cold and I am tired and wah, wah, wah!” I told my mother-in-law/mentor/great friend that there had better be at least 90 good things about winter because that’s how many days I committed to write about it. 🙂

A few good things about this frosty season came to mind, things I’ll write about in the next few days maybe, but the best part of my day was when I walked into my friend’s home for prayer group tonight. It had been a rough day for me. I just woke up exhausted, a very familiar feeling and of course one that I dread. I immediately started standing my ground against the enemy, got up, made a healthy breakfast, took my vitamins and supplements, but about 1 hour later ended up next to Yemi watching Sesame Street. When I mustered up the strength to go get dressed, Yemi (who is just now talking, so every syllable is precious) says, “Mommy, get back in bed!” I was like, “Okay!!”
By God’s grace, we made it to the grocery, and I felt Him answer my prayers of “Lord, help me enjoy this.” He is only waiting to be asked!! I have learned this lesson!! I am dependent. I can’t care about anything unless He puts that care in me. Sad, but I’m done being depressed about my condition. I’m hopeless…and where I end, He begins. Really. It’s TRUE! So, I came home actually excited about the new things I had bought, stuff I hadn’t had in a while, like blue corn chips and Newman’s Own salsa with flaxseeds added.
But Jack come home and Selah came home, and all of a sudden I started to feel stressed and like I wanted to just escape. The kids were loud, and things were chaotic, and I didn’t feel good enough to get up and gain control over the rest of the schedule for the day. While I made dinner, I ate about 25 Hershey kisses. Not that that totally negates the fact that I lifted weights and ate so beautifully all day besides the kisses, but you know, that’s a bummer. Those moments when I “don’t care” are the reason why I am working so hard and not losing weight. That 10% of the time is practically canceling out the 90%.
I decided to go to worship at EHOP, and if you hadn’t heard about that yet, oh I would love to tell you. Will blog about it sometime. Best secret in town!! Then, I walked into my friend’s home for prayer group. It’s just 3 of us right now, but we know how to pray for each other, and it’s a great time to unwind and be known. The fireplace was lit and glowing (see, something you don’t get in the summer!); the family room was welcoming and warm. Sweet smiles and coming to the Lord together, sharing a lot of the same needs when you get right down to it, was a little oasis. God does want us to have an escape, an oasis…but He is a jealous God, and isn’t wanting to share His beloved with other “lovers”. He wants us to come and rest in Him, and with our siblings in Christ. When I make chocolate or movies or whatever my rest and relaxation, I think it’s like I’m putting off for another day the true rejuvenation I actually am being offered today by the Lord.
Now, chocolate and movies are a superb gift from God, don’t get me wrong. But I am stumbling upon something in my spirit when I see that God has something greater for me to escape to…
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Home for Dinner

Today we went to my mom and dad’s for dinner, to celebrate his 55th birthday. We all look forward to our birthday dinners, because we all get together, but let’s face it, it’s also for the great food!!! My mom is a wonderful cook, and has several “specialty” meals. One of those meals is: well, before I reveal, I just have to say it sounds yucky but it’s really, really good…AND (bonus) it’s made in the crock pot. Anything made in the crock pot is made for winter, and is a good thing about winter! Who wants a hot steamy crock pot sitting in their kitchen in July? Hello.

Anyway, so the meal is: pork chops, sauerkraut, au gratin potatoes, corn pudding (which I personally think is yuck, sorry, Mom), and corn muffins. It’s a dangerously-void-of-green-vegetables meal, which my dad is probably quite happy about.
The pork chops are first browned in a skillet with olive oil, flour, salt and pepper, then placed in a crock pot on a bed of sauerkraut straight out of the jar. You cook it for something like 6 hours on high or longer on low, and voila! I also like to have mashed potatoes with this meal instead of au gratins because my family makes au gratins with Velveeta, and Velveeta is basically from the devil. It’s true. 🙂 And to kick it one more healthy change, a salad would work. My mom is actually an extremely healthy cook, she just makes the bad stuff for certain occasions.
Anyway, yay for warm, steamy, filling winter meals!
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Saturday Shopping

One fun thing about winter is…dare I say it…the chance to take back something you got for Christmas that you didn’t really need. 🙂 Merchandise credit, baby! And the chance to use Christmas money if you were lucky enough to get some.

Sorry to have such a superficial blog today, but it is wonderfully out of the ordinary for me to actually take pleasure in buying something, and today I got to! I have saved Christmas and birthday money for 2 years, and I was able to purchase a keyboard, stand, and pedal today in Louisville at Willis Music Store! Yippee! It took me a very long time, years even, to decide whether or not I “needed” a keyboard. I don’t know if I needed it or not. I don’t know if I will do more concerts because I have it or not. I don’t know if I’ll write more songs because of it or not. But I have prayed about it a long time, and I feel like God wants me to have it. Being ultra-conscious about the issue of Stuff, it’s neat to think there are some things and some experiences that may not be a total necessity but still from Him. Neat. Thanks, God (and Mom & Dad, Jack, Leigh & Jon…)!
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Reason However Many to Enjoy Winter: ‘Cause Right Now Is All We’ve Got

Today was so fun! When I woke up, I wondered if it was a “snow day”…which never meant anything to me before until this winter, with Selah being in her first year of school now. (My dear husband gets up with Selah, and Yemi and I sleep until 9. I know, I know. Charmed life.) But anyway, we started out the day with breakfast, then playing, then we watched Sesame Street (my fave), and then Toy Story 3. Selah got it for Christmas, but I hadn’t watched it yet. Tear, tear!! Then we had lunch, took “naps” (ha ha), did schoolwork, and dressed up like princesses (not me, and sorry there’s no pictures of this! I have some great ones but they are still on the camera. Fail.) Then dinner, games, and “Potty Time with Elmo”. A little too much TV today, but…yeah. No excuses. This is why I’m not homeschooling.

Of course that movie played a part in me being a little nostalgic the rest of the day, and thinking about how fleeting my moments with my girls are. Our little life, our little family, our little home. Their little shoes, their little clothes, their little faces. I just adore it, I really do. I am so glad I got over my problem of wishing away time; I struggled with that I had as a teenager. (Honestly, I think I was bored for the first 2 decades of my life!) So, I sit and breathe these times in every day, because pictures are helpful, videos are great, but you know what I really and truly have? Nothing but right now. Absolutely nothing. I can try to contain it all I want, hold onto it in every way I can imagine, but the facts are the facts. Right now is all we have.
So whether it’s winter or not, I enjoyed this day to the fullest. Fully alive. The glory of God is man fully alive, so it was a worshipful day. Thank You, Lord, for the gift of right now.
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I’ve Got Sunshine…

I wonder if you knew that Vitamin D is more powerful than the flu shot? Sorry to be a horrible blogger and not even have a site to prove it, but there are numerous articles online where it has been tested, and in the “alternative medicine” world it’s pretty much a fact. I am giving my girls Vitamin D, about half a dropper full of a concentrated liquid kind, bought at Sonshine Natural Store in Campbellsville. The girls call it their sunshine.

Also, I am taking 5,000 iu of Vitamin D a day because when I was really sick, my doctor did some tests to see if I was low in it. She was the first doctor to do that, after all the specialists I had seen. Come to find out, being seriously low in D and B can make you feel as bad as if you had chronic fatigue syndrome or a sleep disorder. Just makes me want to scream WAKE UP to the medical community! And just FYI, it is not that expensive to have the tests done, pick up some pharmaceutical grade supplements if you have some deficiencies, and be on your merry way. If you do have deficiencies, you could literally feel better in a matter of days. (I did.)
If you have the winter blues, or Seasonal Affective Disorder, you need some drops of sunshine. Get outside every day if you can, absolutely stock up on Vitamin D, and if you’re really desperate, paint the inside of your house the color of a lemon. That’s what I did! 🙂 As it snows tonight, I pray there is sunshine of many forms in your heart and home. Good night!
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A Serious Winter Blah Moment…turned to gold

Hopefully you’ll enjoy my new pics. They’re cute. Kids are just cute, you know? Every one of them. Even an ugly kid would still be cute. Jack says its so we don’t eat them…evolutionarily speaking…lol. Okay, that’s the hunger speaking. I think I have a little stomach bug and haven’t eaten in a day or so. I feel like I’m over it, but at the same time, feeling a little headachy and queasy still. I want to be WELL so I can go volunteer in Selah’s class tomorrow and have friends over for dinner tomorrow evening, but we’ll see what happens. I have learned from (sadly) years of not knowing what to expect with my health to accept what comes…
Actually I’ve been thinking a ton lately about how accepting the chronic illness/fatigue God had allowed into my life LED to more deliverance than all the fighting against it ever did. What I think I’ve learned is that there are different kinds of suffering, and I’ll be quick about explaining it, or at least my take on the matter…
Some suffering, we cause ourselves. We make poor choices or we’re ignorant, but the good side of this kind of suffering is that knowledge and discipline can bring healing. When we ask God for miraculous healing, I think it would be wise to ask Him to help us get a clue on what we are doing wrong (physically, spiritually, emotionally), and then take responsibility for it, if that’s the case. Some suffering is just plain from the enemy, and he will have whatever authority in the situation that we believe he has. If we know the truth, that he has NO authority, actually, and that prayer and worship can shrink his territory (hallelujah!), then this kind of suffering can come to an end quickly, no need for it to stick around in a believer’s life. And lastly, some suffering is handed straight from the Lord for our good and His glory. If we’ve worked through deciphering our personal suffering, its origin, and we get to this last one and find ourselves in suffering God has brought into our lives, we can know it is beauty. It is a gift. It is as beautiful as the cross of Christ. It, in a way, is the cross of Christ, and He is asking us to carry it with Him. He doesn’t always want it to happen quickly, this thing of deliverance. Sometimes He does, for sure, but let’s remember we are people of faith, not sight.
Three things these types of suffering have in common: 1) God is in control of it. Nothing comes to us without first passing through His hand. We don’t want to believe this; it’s painful. But it is more painful to believe God is powerless sometimes, because we know that’s just not true. He’s either ALL powerful or NOT powerful, we can’t have it both ways. Either His word is true and He sees the sparrows, or not. 2) God is beckoning us closer to Him in every moment of trial, no matter the origin, He wants to show His faithfulness, compassion, and presence. He wants to show us what matters, as we die to our strong will about our and other’s destinies. 3) God promised it. The Word is full of what to expect, its just that in our culture, and especially our North American Christian culture, somehow people have decided all suffering is from the enemy and therefore if you are suffering, you are somehow not in His will, not praying the right way, not standing strong enough, not knowing what you should know. After ten years of going round and round with this, I have peace in believing my God is not waiting for a magic word.
So, what is He waiting for? I don’t think we are to just coast obliviously through. There is a battle, there is a race; we just want to make sure we’re spending our energy on the right ones! A few ideas of maybe how He’d like us to respond: Believing in His power and sovereignty in all things, even when it appears His will is not being done; learning humility and the fear of the Lord which ultimately demands nothing from Him, puts us in a place where we do not concern ourselves with matters He has not given us to fix; prizing intimacy with Him above any goal, relationship, ministry, or even calling He has put in our hearts and lives; bringing a sacrifice of praise.
My time in Africa and the “sickness” that resulted from it are a mixture of all three origins of suffering. I wanted God to bring glory to Himself by healing me, and one time He did, for a season. But the things I have learned…I absolutely am so thankful for how these difficulties have changed me. I would be so busy, so lost in people’s opinions and praise; I’d be a worker, not a daughter; I wouldn’t be learning to love the Lord with all my heart, soul, mind, and strength because I’d be worshipping all I could do for Him instead of Him. And that’s just the beginning. I’m going to let suffering complete it’s work in me, all the time stomping on the enemy who wants to make things confusing or worse than they are, and all the time learning about how to be as healthy and wise as I can. (This is the goal anyway!)
So…nothing specific to winter today…but it was last winter that I remember crying all the way home from a family gathering, where I was so sick and tired, and the only thought in my mind all the way home was, “God, You’re not going to heal me, are You?” My heart was broken. I had been praying and believing for 9 years, and this was the very first time I allowed myself to be in that place of, really, despair. I remember thinking, “Okay, I am Yours. If you want me sick and unable to care for my kids or do anything I believe You’ve called me to do, I surrender. It’s not my life anyway. If You want me well and able, You’re going to have to make it happen, because I give up! Don’t expect anything out of me, God, because You’re making it impossible, You know!!!” Somehow, peace entered my heart at that time. I realized I needed to go with the flow, trusting that this was His flow. God assured me He didn’t want anything from me anyway…not anything that I thought He wanted, that is. He wanted me to let go of my hold on my life, and really say “whatever”, even if it was going to be a life of embarrassment, weakness, and nothingness. The journey of weakness had begun 9 years before, but now the journey of accepting it and finding joy in it would begin. And would you believe that 4 months later I met the doctor that knew what was physically wrong with me in one conversation, and I have actually had more wisdom, knowledge, and steps to healing this year than in 10 whole years of searching?
This is not the journey I hoped for, prayed for, or believed for. But it is mine, and I am with Jesus in it, so it’s good! For anyone who read this far, bless your heart, and thank you for letting me share my life with you. I’d be happy to talk in person anytime!